I’m sure you’ve been on the opposite end of this feeling with me in your position. 

 I feel like your mind is made up about me not being with Tyler, so it doesn’t make sense for me to talk to you about my feelings. The overarching theme is that you don’t want me to have them. So I just don’t talk to you about it. 


You know me and you know I wouldn’t wanna step on the toes of feminism, BUT

Can we talk about how annoying it is that, generally, body hair acceptance is really only a major thing amongst women who still adhere to mainstream beauty standards in almost all other aspects.

And I say fuck that. Take it from one: the world is not just a bunch of skinny white girls who wear make-up every single day and dress in manners that are ~close enough~ to hip.

Naw. Body hair on big black women. Body hair on Latina women who have way, way, way more than just a lil peach fuzz.

Ain’t got time for no bullshiiiiit.

Dearest Katy,

Here’s a post that’s not angry or bitching for ya:

Just because I feel like you feel pressured all the time these days and I don’t want to be overbearing,

Here’s a sappy, but casual: you’re my fave, I love ya, and you got this, for when and if you need a pick-me-up.

Even when things get tougher and tougher for you (as they so, so often have in the last year), I’m so confident that you can make the best out of it. I feel so lucky to know such a strong, inspirational woman. Keep being the fantastic person you are, always, and accept this reminder that you make life even more fanfuckingtastic just by existing.

If Lily never has a father figure, she will have a grandfather like Jerry who goes out of his way to make sure she knows what it means to be loved. She’ll have a grandmother and a mother who is amazing and does everything to make her life just as amazing. And friends and family to support all of them through everything. She’ll grow into a woman just as beautiful as the women before her.

At the end of the day, I’m here to be optimistic and remind you that you never, ever have to settle. You’re not fucking up. Be true to yourself and know that even if it was always just you, you are so enough on your own that Lily is bound to be a phenomenal human being from your upbringing alone. Genuinely. You’ve made it through so many obstacles and damn it, you can make it through a Hell of a lot more.